Comments on: Ask Reecie Advice Column: Letter from Why Me?

By: jamaican woman

jamaican woman — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 19:23:57 +0000

VU,I think your response back then was intelligent and precise!
U went deep with that one.I only clicked here because I saw that you had left a comment here but an glad I did!
U got me thinking…

Ps don’t ever give up on your dreams if you have the potiental to do better…………..

By: viciuzurban

viciuzurban — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:15:24 +0000

damn i reading back at m response and cant even believe i actually wrote that wtf was i on back then and why is my life so sidetracked now SMH

By: viciuzurban

viciuzurban — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 13:52:30 +0000

People transition through life and fall back in relationships for different reasons - denial, inexperience, insecurity - people change a lot during college and in three years and you need to realise that he may have moved on past you.

Maybe the reason why he’s lost contact with you is that you may have scared him off with the potential questions and expecations you posed or that he simply may just need some time alone to sort out his life without all of the constant pressures of a relationship. It doesn’t always mean he’s with someone else or that he doesn’t want to be together in the future. If its meant to bring you back together hang in there but at the same time dont put as much effort into false promises or aspirations as you will only end up getting hurt in the process. recognise what you have and what you are working with and realise that you may be missing out on having that connection and intimacy with someone else. its been known to strike twice, three times mabye.

a relationship is a living thing. love is a verb. its an action like some people above have mentioned. people in long term or married relationships must have similar views in order to make it work, even business partners must have similar views to make a business work.

stop chasing and trying to salvage lost time - maybe its meant to be this way - things happen for a reason. you may have intentionally gone into this relationship and held onto it for this long purely out of fear/insecurity - but who doesnt - companionship is a sought after commodity with risks involved - but if your heart can be broken that easily, the problem is with you, not with those you love. learn from this relationship. you be stronger in the long run.

By: Loanshub

Loanshub — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 09:42:05 +0000

Whether this is a situation or a story or created to create a situation , but the whole story is worth attention.

By: Turbo

Turbo — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 02:21:05 +0000

or you can write a letter too - like - a hand written letter you dig?

By: Turbo

Turbo — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 02:20:15 +0000

just call or send an email and tell him.

By: Mr.O

Mr.O — Thu, 31 May 2007 21:56:52 +0000

1 more thing how do we know her race or that she likes black men?

By: Stallion

Stallion — Thu, 31 May 2007 21:56:27 +0000

A long distance relationship and plus the fact that you haven’t seen or talk to the guy in a three year period. I’m not so sure about that one.

By: Mr.O

Mr.O — Thu, 31 May 2007 21:55:32 +0000

I say leave him alone. He’s not that into you. I shoot the shit with women from undergrad or previous vacations all the time. I frequent Ibiza, Poland everytime I go, I fall in love. We keep in touch if they are ever in the city they call me. I call them when I’m bored, flying somewhere, on the train, drunk dialing etc.. I tell them all the same shit he’s telling you. He may not have rollover minutes and wants to use all of his minutes, everyone does not have Cingular. You both are different people now. There is no way you can honestly know what he has going on, he can have kids, a wife etc!! You obviously like him more than he likes you. I say meet up with him then tell him if you must.

p.s. I realize that everyone is not emotionally stunted as I am but no man would pass up free legs. I’ve bought bottles for a chance to menage, some exotic shit too! Unexpected sex is great but sex with the potential mother of your children, no man would waste time.. think about it!!

The good news you’re young, its summertime and you seem to be able to construct a sentence some guy is at happy hour waiting for you.

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By: thehonorable

thehonorable — Thu, 31 May 2007 20:48:39 +0000

i assume that dude is feelin’ you, but something is holding him back. granted - you guys are thousands of miles apart, but it’s not out of reach to see somebody within three years. save up a couple of dollars and hop on a plane. what is it that is holding y’all back from seeing each other? does he have a girl? how do you not know how he feels, but y’all talk about having kids together? i think that he has feelings for you that are strong, but he feels obligated to somebody else.

i agree with everyone else and lay your heart on the line and tell him how you feel. i suggest doing it in person if possible, but you have to let you the truth be known - regardless of if he has a girlfriend or not. please be very aware that you may be hurt…but love is a risk and you will take that chance. also, he may not come to his senses immediately. hey - i say you have nothing to lose…this is the man you want and you may have to be a little patient.

if he reveals that he isn’t into you like that, then keep it moving. im sure there are plenty of good black men out there for you.